Judging by my YouTube trending feed, I am concerned about how many of the population-hours are spent by people viewing intelligence reducing YouTube content. Sure, we all like a mindless show or activity here and there. Tuning out is good to refresh the body, mind, and soul. However, most of the population is not paying attention, at all, to big issues or doesn’t care, or both.
On the other hand, paying attention to what is going on lately is extremely stressful! I keep coming back to the idea that there has already been a U.S. coup and we just don’t recognize it yet. If Trump has the Supreme Court on his side, he can win all the ultimate rulings and who knows, call off the elections while the court cases take years to resolve? Maybe I am getting too wound around the axle, but isn’t this exactly the fight Liddle’ Litigating Donnie Trump has prepared for all of his life as a burgeouning malignant narcissist?
How are malignant patholological narcissists created? They are an almost unstoppable virus. We need to understand how they come to be. Is it nature or nurture? To what extent does toxic family life cause children to become narcissists? Could it be that as a child these budding narcissists are put into family crisis positions frequently and learn to litigate their way out of the situation between Mommy and Daddy? Every single technique in the narcissists handbook (see image) could be useful in a full on battle with Mommy and Daddy. And if at the end, Mommy and Daddy tell them they are right, and they are wonderful, it reinforces the charade. Objectively, that is some seriously screwed up co-dependency and child abuse.
Nevertheless, when we encounter a pathologically malignant narcissist in a leadership position we need to recognize the situation and seek solutions. It catches you before you even know it. You are immediately compromised in the vicinity of a narcissist. It’s confusing. It is illogical. What the heck is going on? Is it me? It is so damaging to all people in the orbit of a narcissist. The individuals who are closest are compromised the most and mind-f**ked every moment.
Eventually you realize that it all comes down to your principles and how much you trade on them. The worst people compromise their principles, if they ever had them. The heroes recognize the situation, and despite the personal cost, they hang in there as long as possible, attempting to minimize impact to important values, the customers, and employees. Unfortunately it is often a losing battle for those caught in the situation. For this reason, it is best for many to seek the exits in the vicinity of a malignant narcissist.
J Mark Morris
San Diego, October 23, 2019 v1